How to cope with challenges
Having someone next to you can make all of the difference.
In one study, researchers asked people to look at a hill and estimate how steep it was, first by themselves and then with a friend. When they looked at the hill on their own, they perceived it to be steeper compared to when they looked at it while standing with a friend.
Other studies have found similar effects on the power of presence: if you’re with a loved one while you receive bad news it’s perceived as less stressful, and physical pain is rated as less intense if you’re holding their hand.
How can you be a better support as people take on their hills? One of the most important things to remember is that it’s your presence that matters most — simply being with them, witnessing their challenges, and letting them know they’re not alone. You don’t have to tell them how to climb the hill; you just need to be with them as they do.
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