Don’t know-it-all
You don't need to have all of the answers. In fact, acknowledging that you don't have all of the answers can be one of the wisest things you ever do.
Researchers studying humility have found that it is a quality associated with stronger relationships, greater curiosity and open-mindedness, enhanced wisdom, a willingness to accept others who are different to you, and better mental health.
In every day, there are moments to cultivate this great strength. Here are a few ways you can start:
In a meeting — When someone asks you a question that you don't know the answer to, say so: "I'm not sure, but I'll find out by the end of the day and get back to you."
In an argument — When someone makes a good point, let them know. It shows that you're open to hearing their perspective and changing your mind.
In your work — When you're making a recommendation or delivering a project, pause to challenge your work. Ask: "Where might I be missing something important?"
In a relationship — Catch yourself before you make an assumption or draw a conclusion. Instead, focus on asking questions, like "Can you share more about what you're thinking?" and "What are your goals in this moment?"
In your self-talk — When you're beating yourself up for feeling uncertain or overwhelmed, say to yourself: "It's unreasonable to expect to have all of the answers. What are the questions I need to answer so that I can move forward?"
