Make that mistake
Studies show that perfectionism has significantly increased over the last two decades — and along with that, there has been a corresponding rise in mental illness.
A key element of perfectionism is the fear of failure (and of believing that any mistakes, no matter how small or insignificant, are emblematic of it.) Within this worldview, mistakes are seen as proof that you are imperfect, will never be good enough, and are unworthy of love.
But if we take a step back, we can see that our past mistakes have not been all bad. Sometimes, they are blessings-in-disguise or powerful moments of transformation. They've helped us grow, redirected us onto better paths, or made us more compassionate people. They were how we bonded with others, who shared their mistakes with us in return.
Let's take a cue from the jazz great Ornette Coleman, who said, "It was when I found out I could make mistakes that I knew I was on to something."
The next time you make a mistake, instead of saying, "I'm such an idiot, say, "I'm on to something." That something? Empathy, learning, impact, creativity, fulfillment, your own personal evolution and a deeper connection to your true self. In short, all the things you want. Isn't that something?
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