Weekly: Climb it together
Old Happy: "It's best to go it alone."
New Happy: "It's best to go it together."
In one famous study, researchers asked people to look at a hill and estimate how steep it was, first by themselves and then with a friend.
When they looked at the hill on their own, they perceived it to be steeper compared to when they looked at it while standing with a friend.
Having someone next to you can make all of the difference.
Other studies have found similar effects on the power of presence: if you’re with a loved one while you receive bad news it’s perceived as less stressful, and physical pain is rated as less intense if you’re holding their hand.
How can you be a better support system as people take on their hills?
Remember this: it's your presence that matters most — simply being with them, witnessing their challenges, and letting them know they’re not alone. You don’t have to tell them how to climb the hill; you just need to be with them as they do.
Tips and Tools
1. Try anyway — This week's animation.
2. How you can grow — Embrace your mistakes.
3. A better question — How to connect.
4. There will be bumps — How will you face them?
5. Remember your strength — Remember your victories.
More from TNH
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Speaking — Book us to speak to your team about well-being, resilience, and productivity.
Articles — Read more articles on our website.
Community
What's a sentence you wish someone would say to you?
"I love you unconditionally, just the way you are!"
"I'm not going anywhere."
"I'm here for you, no matter what, and always will be."
"You don't have to do it all."
“I’d like you to take the day off and focus on only you.”
“I want to spend time with you.”
“I am genuinely sorry for what happened and here’s how I’m preventing it from happening again.”
“You are capable of doing everything you’re dreaming of.”
“I see your pain and you are bigger than it.”
“Have faith that things will work out.”
Before You Go
The Definitive Guide to Happiness
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