Weekly: Don’t stay the same
Old Happy: I have to stay as I am in order to be loved. New Happy: I can grow, evolve, and change—and be loved the whole way through.
Some people might judge you for changing. They might say that they don't understand you anymore, or that they don't know what happened to you, or that they want you to go back to the way you were.
Know this: you deserve people in your life who love you as you change. Because changing is an act of love—an act of love for your self, and for all those around you who benefit from your ever-evolving presence.
Your growth is something to celebrate. The ways in which you have changed are a testament to how much you’ve learned. Your new perspectives demonstrate your willingness to move closer to the truth. Your transformations show that you’ve navigated the challenging process of letting go of one version of you and rebuilding as another.
Whenever you feel the pull or the pressure, to go back to an older version of you, one who is no longer serving you, pause and say to yourself: "I can keep transforming. In fact, that's exactly what I'm supposed to do."
Tips and Tools
1. Wait it out — This week's animation.
2. Take a weight off — Your journey is surprisingly similar to theirs.
3. Be willing to try — Get through the hard part.
4. Don't force it — Try this new coping style.
5. You didn't waste it — You don't have to "do it all."
More from TNH
Book — Order New Happy today to find true happiness.
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Speaking — Book us to speak to your team about well-being, resilience, and productivity.
Articles — Read more articles on our website.
Community
How have you changed over the last year?
"I learned how to be gentle with myself and listen to my body."
"I help others more."
"I learned a lot about myself and my feelings. I'm growing stronger."
"I became more patient and thoughtful."
"I can now manage boundaries with my mother."
"I became resilient."
"I realized my parents love me."
Before You Go
The Definitive Guide to Happiness
A groundbreaking new approach based on a decade’s worth of research and brought to life with beautiful artwork, New Happy shows you the proven path to happiness.
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