Weekly: We all need help
Old Happy: "Seeking help makes me weak.”
New Happy: "Seeking help makes me strong.”
Old Happy’s individualistic culture tells you that you need to do everything in your life on your own, all by yourself, and if you can’t, then you are broken, flawed, and unworthy. It’s no wonder that so many people struggle to ask for help — from a very early age, we are taught to avoid it at all costs.
The mindset is a recipe for both personal and collective pain. No one can do anything alone. Moreover, trying to do everything alone hurts you. Instead of leaning on other people’s strengths, insights, and love, you go without, struggling through without the support that you deserve. It’s an instinct that makes the fine times feel hard and makes the hard times feel impossible.
People who ask for help are strong. Not just because they have shown that they’re willing to go against Old Happy’s culture. But because they are demonstrating that they are committed to persevering. They want to get better. They want to find a way to improve. They want to heal their pain. They see a brighter future and they are absolutely, determinedly, courageously moving towards it. What could be stronger than that?
If you are struggling to ask for what you need, I want you to say these words to yourself: “Asking for help shows just how strong I am.” Every single person out there needs help. And every single one of our lives would be a lot better if we all learned to offer more help to others and ask for it in return.
Tips and Tools
1. Be the bridge — This week's animation.
2. Expand it — If your beliefs change, you do, too.
3. What's your legacy? — You leave something behind.
4. Why you are procrastinating — It's not because you're lazy.
5. Take a weight off — Let someone listen.
More from TNH
Book — Order New Happy today to find true happiness.
Podcast — Get a daily morning pep talk — in five minutes or less
Speaking — Book us to speak to your team about well-being, resilience, and productivity.
Articles — Read more articles on our website.
Community
What do you need some help with?
"Feeling motivated."
"Advocating for myself at work."
"My mental health."
"Navigating conflict with my partner."
"Having a difficult conversation about emotional validation with the person I am dating."
"I need help organizing/planning/hosting several upcoming parties/events! The holiday season is both fun and overwhelming."
"I need help with knowing how to handle a change in a looong time friendship. Should I explain what happened, or is it best to just move along and let it fade away?"
Before You Go
The Definitive Guide to Happiness
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