How to figure out what is right for you
In a world of many opinions and endless advice, how do you figure out what's right for you?
The secret? Use your body to get feedback. What's right for you has a different physical feeling than what is not. It feels supportive, compelling, and even if it's scary, hopeful and authentic.
Try This
When you read a piece of advice, test it against your body's feelings. Here is a powerful little visualization technique you can try. (If you're not used to using tools like this, bear with me and give it a try!)
Imagine you are going to take that advice off of the page or the screen, and grab it in a physical form. Close your eyes and mold the advice into a ball, like you're packing a snowball. Pay attention to how it feels to you, whether it's weighty or light, and any other meaningful characteristics.
Now that you have your advice ball, pretend you're going to bounce it on the ground. Throw it down onto the ground. Does it bounce back up into your hand, or does it splatter into the ground and fall apart? Time and again, I have discovered that personally-unhelpful advice doesn't bounce back up into my hand. It falls apart on the ground, and that's where I leave it.
While it might seem a bit silly, this exercise has been something I've found works over and over again. Try it and see if it works for you (and if not, leave it on the ground where it belongs!)
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