Weekly: It doesn’t define you
Old Happy: "My struggles are shameful."
New Happy: "Every human struggles."
If you're facing a challenge right now, there are three things that I want you to remember.
First, the challenge is not the only thing in your life, even if at times it feels like it is. I know it can feel so all-encompassing, so overwhelming. But when you can, try to pause and consciously look up and around to the other parts of your life. They are still there. You need them: they can give you strength, support, and confidence to take the next step forward.
Second, remind yourself: this challenge isn't going to last forever. Use a mantra like, “This is not permanent — it’s just a part of my current experience.” Even if it feels like it will last forever, nothing does; the only rule of life is that this too shall pass.
Third, this challenge does not define you as a person. You are so much more than whatever it is that you're facing. It is not you, and you are not it. Creating this distance helps you to look at the problem objectively, take action wisely, and persevere courageously.
Tips and Tools
1. You make it brighter — This week's animation.
2. You can face it — How to cope with avoidance.
3. No right way — Grieving takes time.
4. A healthy balance — Navigating relationship dynamics.
5. Finding contentment — There's something good here.
More from TNH
Book — Order New Happy today to find true happiness.
Podcast — Get a daily morning pep talk — in five minutes or less
Speaking — Book us to speak to your team about well-being, resilience, and productivity.
Articles — Read more articles on our website.
Community
What’s a problem you're dealing with right now?
"Prolonged anxiety from a difficult neighbor issue."
"Balancing my need for time to rest with the amount of loved ones who want to spend time with me."
"A breakup, professional/financial woes, anguish over global events/politics, mental health struggles."
"A lack of control over my professional life/career journey - and trying to get that back."
"Separating from my partner who doesn't want kids so that I can pursue that hope/dream."
"Realising that I don't know how to be earnest."
"Being too rigid, with schedule and expectations."
Before You Go
The Definitive Guide to Happiness
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