Weekly: We’re here to help

Old Happy: "We're in competition."
New Happy: "We're here to help each other."

Because Old Happy culture raised us to believe that our value is based upon our performance, we have learned to see other people as our competition. You have to prove (by working harder, smarter, faster) that you are the best. The winners of this competition are the only ones who are worthy of love, fulfillment, and happiness.

As a result, many people learn to employ a specific strategy: keep other people down. If you hurt others, it quiets your own insecurities and knocks them out of the field of competition, clearing your path towards what you think you want.

But it's all a lie. Keeping people down will never make you happy. Bring them up will make you happy. Showing them way will make you happy. Helping them will make you happy.

The more that you focus on supporting and encouraging other people, the better you start to feel about yourself. You are proving to yourself that life is not a competition. You are remembering that you have your own incomparable, unique gifts and strengths. And with each generous action, you are helping others to see these truths, too.

Tips and Tools

1. A loving relationship — This week's animation.

2. Make one change — To change your life.

3. Your unique path — No one else's.

4. Results are coming — Just around the corner.

5. Show up and listen — How to be a good listener.

More from TNH

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Speaking — Book us to speak to your team about well-being, resilience, and productivity.

Articles — Read more articles on our website.

Community

How has a friend helped you recently?

"I have a social event coming up where I'll be seeing people from school I've not seen in years. I'm going through some big life events and I'm not in a great place. A good friend has offered to stick with me through the party to help with the social side and deflect anything I might not want to talk about."

"I have recently been feeling that I need a creative outlet in my life but have struggling to decide what to do. My friend gave me a simple suggestion that not only made me feel heard by her, but sparked my own creativity again!"

"Giving me advice and encouragement during my recent job search. It has meant the world to feel like I have such good people in my corner.

"Making the time to listen."

"My friend drove bike in my house in the rain just to give me snacks and a hug."

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