Weekly: How we change
Here is a key element of The New Happy philosophy: human beings are good, and we are all motivated to expand our goodness and share it with the world.
In a world of short-term goals, it can be hard to remember something important: the expression of our goodness takes time. Whatever it is that we’re pursuing — a longer-term purpose, well-rounded character, fulfilling relationships, or greater wisdom — there are no overnight transformations.
Take a moment to think about how far you have really come. Go back in time to 5, 10, or 20 years ago. How have you changed since then? How has your goodness expanded? I’m willing to bet you’ll be surprised by the wonderful ways you’ve grown and contributed.
With that perspective, you can return to the present moment, knowing that all you’re doing today is leading you into a greater expression of your goodness.
To expansion,
Stephanie Harrison, founder of The New Happy
This Week
Octavia Butler wrote, “Kindness eases change.”
If we look at our transformations from a kinder perspective, it becomes quite clear: there’s no straight and easy path. Here's what change really looks like: having flashes of insight, forgetting what you just learned, struggling to practice, being tested in challenging circumstances, feeling like you’re taking a massive step back, and wondering what you’re missing. You might beat yourself up for this, believing that there is something wrong with you and the way you're approaching your goals. But there’s nothing wrong with you. This is just how it works. It’s how we change, through attempts and setbacks and re-learning.
The process in and of itself can be a great and powerful teacher, if we acknowledge it and embrace it for the natural, beautiful unfolding of our growth that it is. Embracing it is the kindest option, because the journey of change never ends: life continually gives us new chances to extend and deepen our character, to grow as people in the direction that is deeply meaningful to us. As Rilke said, "The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things." Once this change is embodied, you dust yourself off and move on to the next one, seeking to express your goodness in greater and greater ways.
More Tips and Tools
1. The problem with measuring yourself — You’re not a robot.
2. You have so much wisdom to share — How to unpack your insights.
3. How you’re treating yourself — Be consistent.
4. Asking for what you need — A simple process to help you get what you need.
5. Set an intention — How do you want to be?
Or listen to the podcast episodes (Apple, Spotify) from this week!
Community
What is a pattern in your life you'd like to change?
"Using my phone before bedtime! It doesn't make me feel as good as reading a book but the dopamine hits are real."
"I’d like to show up for others more."
"Going to bed late. I want to create a more sustainable and healthier sleep ritual."
"Comparing myself to others."
"Negative self talk and doubt. I am realizing that I am enough, no matter my accomplishments or fears."
"Putting myself down."
Inspiration
1. This photographer photoshopped himself into his childhood photos (OpenCulture) — There’s something about this that’s so moving.
2. How did the 4-day work week pilot go? (Washington Post) — "15 percent of employees who participated said that “no amount of money” would convince them to go back to working five days a week."
3. A former debt collector is now helping to forgive millions in medical debt (Positive News) — What an example of change!
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