Weekly: Loved as we are

Imagine having someone in your life who loves you for all that you are. This person accepts and embraces every part of you. They show you the best of you and encourage you to nurture it. They celebrate your wins, they sit with you in your challenges, and they remind you that you're never alone.

Now, remember this: you can be this person for someone. That's how powerful your—and our—ability to love is. This isn't something that has to be confined to a romantic relationship, either; you can share your love with all of the people in your life. Real love is something you don't run out of.

What makes people feel loved in this way is usually the little things. This is backed up by research: one 2020 study found that these small, everyday experiences of love are connected to higher well-being — the more moments of love received, the happier they were.

This weekend, sit down with someone who matters to you and as, "What do you need right now?" Listen to what they say. Then, use your creativity, care, and compassion to fulfill that need.

For example:

“I need a break.” — Give them the night off from parenting, surprise them with a trip to your favorite restaurant, or take on one of their regular responsibilities.
"I need appreciation.” — Find five ways to compliment them over the next few days.
“I need to connect.” — Ask them how they are feeling, go for a walk and talk, or do something new and fun together.

And don't hesitate to ask for the same in return. Love builds with every exchange.

Tips and Tools

1. The power of your presence — This week's animation.

2. How to be truly positive — It's not about smiling.

3. Don't miss the joy — There's much more along the way.

4. Break the avoidance pattern — Two coping styles.

5. What you believe — Here's what you really deserve.

More from TNH

Book — Order New Happy today to find true happiness.

Podcast — Get a daily morning pep talk — in five minutes or less

Speaking — Book us to speak to your team about well-being, resilience, and productivity.

Articles — Read more articles on our website.

Community

What is something you love about yourself?

I’m empathetic and caring for my colleagues. I suppose being a good listener is my greatest strength.

Connecting people, processes and ideas! I like to call connecting my super-power!!

I know I’m funny and make people laugh!

I consider empathizing as one of my strengths and I apply this not only to my personal life but also at work as a corporate communications advisor. I love to see the glow in people’s faces whenever they feel safe, seen, and supported.

I find that one of my biggest strengths is being able to emotionally connect with people. Some might not see it as a strength but I think those who I connect to appreciate this.

I see the beauty of nature every day. I appreciate it. I photograph it. I share it. I paint it.

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