Weekly: What you listen to
Old Happy: "They are lying to please me."
New Happy: “They are telling the truth to help me."
You believe the negative words they speak. So why don't you believe the positive ones? When you think about it, it doesn't make much sense: you either trust them or you don't, and if you do trust them, then why would you question their kindnesses?
Deep down, you might not believe that you actually deserve their kind words. If that's the case, here's a perspective shift I'd like you to consider trying on: sometimes, other people can see you more clearly than you can see yourself.
Prove this to yourself by bringing to mind one of your own friends who does not see their own strengths. They fret about their appearance—but all you see is their beauty. They dismiss their contributions—but all you see is their impact. You try so hard to get through to them ("You're wonderful, you're gorgeous, you're doing so well!") and yet they never seem to really hear you.
Could the same be true for you? Perhaps those people offering you compliments are trying to help you see yourself. Perhaps you just need to trust them. Perhaps you need to let their words in so that you can start to feel, deep down, that you are deserving of their kindness. Because that is the truth—you are. You really are.
Tips and Tools
1. Your journey — This week's animation.
2. Meet it with love — Tend and befriend.
3. A messy first try — A predictable process.
4. To grow, accept — We've got it backwards.
5. We're here to help — How to be happier.
More from TNH
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Articles — Read more articles on our website.
Community
What’s your favorite compliment you’ve received?
“Someone knowing when I’m nearby before seeing me because they can hear me laughing."
“That I’m good at making people feel heard and that I have an immaculate sense of style”
“My favorite compliment I've ever received was in the form of a comment on my mom's Facebook post celebrating my birthday. One of her friends said: "One of my favorite things about her is the sound of her laugh. It is like a rippling stream."
“That I’m someone’s lucky charm.”
“That I look pretty the way I am, and that my presence gives them immense joy.”
“Thank you for being you.”
“You make me feel safe.”
“You inspired me to do this thing and I’m so happy.”
Before You Go
The Definitive Guide to Happiness
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