Weekly: Show the way
Old Happy: "We're in competition." New Happy: "We're here to help each other."
Old Happy culture raised us to believe that our value is based upon our performance. As a result, we have learned to see other people as our competition—and everyone knows that, in a competition, only one person gets to win. You have to prove (by working harder, smarter, faster) that you are the best. The winners are the only ones who are worthy of love, fulfillment, and happiness.
As a result, many people learn to employ a specific strategy: keep other people down. If you hurt others, it both quiets your own insecurities and knocks them out of the field of competition, clearing your path towards what you think you want. Many people have tragically made this into a worldview, a lifestyle, an organizing principle: I will find my own happiness by taking it away from others.
But the truth, proven out in dozens studies, is that keeping people down will never make you happy. In fact, it's the opposite. Bringing them up will make you happy. Showing them way will make you happy. Helping them will make you happy.
The more that you focus on supporting and encouraging other people, the better you start to feel about yourself. With every kind act, you are proving to yourself that life is not a competition. You are reminding yourself that you have your own incomparable gifts and strengths. And with each loving action, you are helping others to see the goodness that remains in humanity.
Tips and Tools
1. The importance of mistakes — This week's animation.
2. Never too late — Today is a new day.
3. Transform your fear — Into your confidence.
4. From reaction to response — Two steps.
5. No matter how you feel — All are welcome.
More from TNH
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Articles — Read more articles on our website.
Community
What’s a small win you’ve had recently?
"Making sure I schedule in time for peace. Ex: Each day I pick some peaceful to do like listening to calming music."
"I found a red piece of seaglass!"
"Learning how to crochet a granny square."
"I learned how to manage my tasks."
"Finished a 32x26 painting I've been working on for weeks."
"My post-op recovery is going well."
Before You Go
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