The patterns in our relationships
It happens: our relationships fall into some version of a pattern. There are many versions of this: a rut, a standstill, a disequilibrium, a detente, a taking-one-another-for-granted, or a repeat of what we experienced in our childhoods.
Human beings are patterned creatures: we gravitate towards what is familiar, we repeat it, and that very act of repetition makes it a part of our selves, lives, and relationships. But it doesn't have to be this way.
At any moment, you can change your relationship's existing pattern. Remember this: transformation always starts with just one different choice.
Sometimes that choice might be to stay in this relationship and approach it or nurture it in a different way. Other times, you might choose to leave it, step away from it, or limit it. Patterns make you feel like there's an inevitability, that A leads to B which always leads to C. But you have power, and agency, and determination. You can do something different today.
Here are a few choices to kickstart a transformations. Today, could you...
It won't be comfortable at first. But you're strong. Stronger than you know. You've just proven that to yourself by making this choice — to leave what is known and comfortable, and venture towards what is healthy, joyful and fulfilling.
